Last week I had someone post on my social media some comments that were directed at me with the intention of making me feel bad, or that I had done something wrong. I could have retaliated in defense but I knew that would only escalate the situation. I ended up sharing about it in a Facebook Live but I decided that it was equally important to let my fingers do the talking and make you a checklist for when you receive negative comments on your social media.
Below are 8 tips on what to do when you receive negative comments on your social media. Feel free to leave me a comment with how you deal with “haters” or how this post helps you understand why they do it and how to stay in your light!!
First, stop, do not pass go. This means you need to collect yourself before you respond or even react for that matter. It’s kind of like the count to 10 rule when your kids get out of hand.
Breathe! When external stimuli creates a rise in us, our body immediately responds. Our heart rate increases and our natural flow of breath becomes shallow. Our actions and thoughts actually follow our breath and that is why when we have anxiety, if we pay attention to our breath, we will notice that it is short and fast. Focus on your breath and take five breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth allowing it to be auditory with a deep sigh. You will notice your body coming back down to earth and your breath starts to flow.
If you have ever read the Four Agreements, this is the time to implement the agreement, do not take it personal. People are reacting based on their human experience and not based on what you have or have not done. If we can remember that then there’s no reason for us to respond to them in defense and rather see it from this perspective.
Forgive them for they know not what they do. Just like the agreement on not taking it personal, we need to be empathetic to the fact the person leaving negative comments is not acting consciously. Whatever you said or wrote has a connection to something that they experienced in the past and therefore they are responding via their ego.
Realize that your reaction is a reflection of who you are and I’m pretty sure you are all love and light. Be very intentional with what you say. Do not judge or condemn them but at the same time be very firm in your personal boundaries.
Do not say you are sorry! A couple of weeks ago I did a post about saying sorry. Saying sorry gives away your power. If this person is leaving negative comments, it is not your fault and you do not have to, nor should you say the word sorry. If you were sorry you wouldn’t have put this content out there to begin with.
It’s ok to not do or say anything. If you are at a complete loss for words or if there is nothing you can say or do to resolve this then it is absolutely ok, and sometimes it’s the best thing, to not do or say anything. The person may be anticipating your reaction and doing nothing will take away their ammunition.
Lastly, I think it is a great idea to send them love! Most likely, they are being negative because they have a lack of self love or do not know how to receive love. Negative people are the ones who need love the most. Imagine sending a soft pink light to their hearth chakra or wrap them up in pure white light. Their higher self will receive it and you will also feel better.